The power of possibility exists in our most important relationships and it is from this sacred foundation that we are more able to move through the world with ease, security, and a sense of true belonging. The magic of an interdependent relationship means that you can breathe deeply into your own desires, opinions, thoughts, and dreams, while creating a secure-functioning, differentiated relationship with another, or others, who strive to bring the same truest self into view. This is a space where both “you and I” matter and we are equally caring for our relationship as we commit to care for our individual selves. We are accountable and responsible to be conscious and aware of what we want and how we show up. If there is something happening inside us or in between us, we commit to unearth it, address it, and repair it. If we find that it is time to end our relationship, we do so with respect and honoring for the lessons and gifts we take as our paths part ways.

I offer this vision as a relationship mission statement. And yet I know that even with the best intentions, if we’ve encountered painful or stressful life experiences, especially in relationships where trusted others failed us, it can fog our lens of both ourselves and our interactions with others. It can change who we think we are and what we believe we deserve from others.  It alters how we respond, perceive, and soothe our bodies and hearts when we are in a state of threat or fear, anger or self-preservation.  

Part of what influences and shapes us has to do with our earliest experiences with caregivers, family members, and our communities. Equally as important is our experiences with the social sphere around us and how we are treated based on our race, culture, ethnicity, class, gender identity, sexual identity, ability, religion, etc.  The intersection of all of these factors in our lives, makes up the filter with which we see, hear, and sense our relationships.

If you choose to untangle, repair, and move your relationship forward in its development and expansion, or if you need a space to have an intentional ending or transitional process, I approach working with you from a place of appreciation and respect for your courage and resilience.  I see my role as a partner in holistic healing and together we will honor the ways you have coped.  We may look at the larger systems of power that are in place and how this has played a role in your life, family, and relationships.  We will strive to help you establish both internal and external resources, pulling from the strengths and gifts of your experiences, enabling you to be more firmly grounded in joy, agency, trust, empowerment, hope, balance, and connection ~ as separate whole individuals.  From my own personal experience, therapy has been an ongoing voyage of uncovering and being curious, as we are ever evolving, and change and challenge are constants to the human experience and to our most intimate bonds.  When you find the right therapeutic relationship, whether it be for short term or longer term work, it can provide a path toward integration where you can reconnect to your truest self and create the relationship you envision for your future.